Life does not always seem wonderful. In fact, things can get pretty tough sometimes. Everyone has "stuff" going on that they are dealing with. Maybe you lost your job. Perhaps there were lots of little things that just kept happening to ruin you day, week, or year. Maybe, like us, you recently lost a loved one. So what do you do when the universe seems to be out to get you? Do not let it win. As hard as things may get, do not let the hardships of your daily grind get you down. Focus on the good things as hard as it may seem.
I, Amber, am currently battling Influenza A. It would be easy to focus on how much this flu sucks, however, I am choosing not to. I am choosing to focus on the positive. Like my mom dropping off food for me and the fact that my friend Sarah has been doing my lesson plans. So although I feel yucky, I know that I am surrounded by people who love and care about me. That is what I want to focus on because being angry and upset that I am sick will get me nowhere.
But the flu isn't the only hardship we are facing as a family. Throughout 2017 Jordan's dad battled brain cancer. We could have let this diagnosis bring our spirits down but we, especially Jordan, chose to be optimistic. Things seemed to be on the up-and-up. His tumor had shrunk by nearly 50%. Then suddenly he took a turn for the worse. We found out there was a second tumor. The prognosis was not good. Instead of being angry, Jordan chose to make the best of a bad situation. He spent as much time as he could with his dad the last few weeks. This morning, Jerry passed away. In our grief we have found two things we feel are positives. The first is that Jerry was in great spirits this weekend. Jordan and his brother were able to make some good memories of their dad being alert, talkative, and responsive; something that did not happen often as of late. This is truly a blessing and we are so thankful for the time they were able to have together this weekend. Finally, we are at peace knowing he passed in his sleep in his home. He did not suffer and knowing that is comforting in our time of grief.
It is okay to feel sad, mad, angry, and frustrated. But please do not let it consume you. Acknowledge the pain you feel but do not allow it to take over your life. Look for the light at the end of the tunnel and know that at some point things will get better.
We are Amber and Jordan Kirbey. We are excited to share our experiences and ideas with you!