Yesterday an idea popped into my head. The idea centered around creating an online community and providing a place for individuals to routinely express gratitude, give thanks, and treat others with kindness. My vision is an environment of love and positivity. A place anyone is welcome to come and let the world know what they're thankful for, no matter how large or small. This place would encourage and build up all of it's members. Together we would create a safe place of happiness, kindness, and gratitude. We would build one another up to our best selves. We'd strive to eliminate negativity, at least for a few moments every day, and raise the self-esteem of all those involved.
Who would like to be part of this beautiful community?
Leadership is something we all need. At various points of our lives we will either rely on others to lead us, or we will lead others. It's not always a choice to lead. Many times others look up to us without our knowing. Regardless of how many people look to you as a leader, you must lead your own life. You set the example and create the image everyone remembers you for. You decide how to carry yourself. You decide how to live your life.
Leaders accept responsibility for their actions.
Leaders are honest and trustworthy.
Leaders motivate and lift those around them up.
Leaders make others better.
Leaders are unselfish.
Leaders admit when they're wrong.
Leaders are not arrogant.
Leaders are not selfish.
Leaders don't bring down and insult others.
Leaders don't lie.
Leaders aren't self-absorbed.
What kind of example will you set? How will you lead?
Yesterday we celebrated my Father's life. He passed away January 10th of this year after a long fight with brain cancer. He fought valiantly. At one point it looked like he was winning the war. He had successfully been able to shrink his original tumor by 50%. Unfortunately a 2nd tumor developed that treatment couldn't help.
Just days before he passed he rallied. My brother and I came up for a visit. He was alert, energetic, and communicating as well as he had in weeks. He held our hands throughout the day. Every time my mom passed he requested kisses. He even hummed to some of his favorite music. It was a wonderful day none of us will forget.
The celebration yesterday was amazing. So many friends and family members came out to reminisce. The atmosphere was full of love and joy. My dad would have been proud. He would have loved hanging out with each and every person there. Hearing the respect people had for him, seeing the impact he left, and feeling the love for my father from everyone meant so much to us as a family. It reinforced who Jerry was and what he stood for. In a moment that could be so sad, the room was vibrant.
It was perfect and just the way he would have wished.
Thank you to those who came out.
Thank you to everyone who has offered us support and condolences.
Thank you to all who have helped, no matter how small the gesture, over the past few months.
The kindness of friends, family, and even strangers is amazing. The human race is a special breed. Our sympathy and compassion for one another at times is admirable.
We care. We support. We protect.
When we are united we offer each other an amazing sense of security. We give one another courage and strength. We lift the broken shells of one's past and help piece it together. We teach one another how to stand. We'll show someone how to live when they've lost the will to breathe.
We are special. We are unique. Together we are strong.
In my gratitude journal I have three short statements I write at the top of the page every day. These statements act as a reminder, a personal slogan, and an affirmation to center my mind. Those three statements are:
"Find beauty. Be grateful. Feel joy."
I'm an eternal optimist. I always try to remain positive. I look for the beauty in every situation. I try and figure out what lesson I can take away from every scenario in order to learn from it or prevent it from happening again. You've heard "everything happens for a reason". I don't believe that is inherently true, but I do believe we can grow from every ordeal we are involved in if w have the right mindset. Finding the beauty in any situation is a step in the right direction.
Being grateful is all the rage right now in personal development, and I'm a big fan of that. Gratitude keeps us grounded. The act of being grateful keeps us humble, lifts our spirits, and can shed a positive light on everyone's life. Take the time to write, think, or speak about what you are grateful for and you will notice an almost immediate impact on your mood. Start or finish your days with this practice. When you find yourself becoming angry or frustrated take a deep breath and think about all the amazing people and items you have that you can be grateful for. We are each blessed in our own ways. Focus on that when times get rough.
We each deserve to feel joy. We owe it to ourselves to live a life that provides meaning, fulfillment, and happiness. Treat yourself to being around people who's company you enjoy, hobbies you find fun, and work that makes you feel good. Keeping a positive outlook and being grateful makes experiencing joy easy in almost any situation.
These three statements create my foundation at the start of everyday. They set my mind. They encourage me. They fill me with confidence. I hope they might do the same for you!
It's amazing how a small dose of the right people in your life can have a wonderful impact on your days. A shot of quality friendship can relax you from a long, hard day in the office. A heaping portion of time with friends can reverse your mood, bring endless amounts of smiles to your face, and fill your belly with laughs.
Our friendships should be meaningful. With the right dosage, time spent with these incredible people should leave us feeling better than we did without them. The moments we are bonding should leave us feeling like we can tackle the world. Our relationships should instill confidence in our minds, happiness in our hearts, and smiles in our souls. These companions bring positive vibes into our lives, listen to our deepest concerns or frustrations, and are always ready to help when needed.
They are willing to put us first in a time of crisis, support us in a time of need, and help us when our worlds seem to be crashing in. Through thick and thin, our friends will keep us afloat. Our friends will help lay the groundwork and create the foundation to stand back up. True friends will not waiver. They are with us. They are the people we wake up grateful for. They are the folks we think to call first. They are the individuals who are a blessing in our lives.
Think of your friends. Appreciate who they are. Thank them for what they've done. Let them know how important they are to you.
Today we woke up to a winter wonderland and as you can see from this picture, Stella would much prefer to stay inside and snuggle in her bed.
There is something magical about snow. Watching the snowflakes swirl and spin in the wind; knowing that each one is as unique as you and me. Playing in snow ignites a childlike spark in even the most mature souls. You cannot help but giggle when you nail your spouse with a snowball and then run with terror/glee when they fire back. Sledding gives you a rush of adrenaline that leaves you wanting more.
I love to watch our dogs play in the snow, noses down, sprinting and sliding, dodging snowballs and trying to catch them. It's a little bit magical this snow, and all the fun and silliness that come along with it.
Yes my tree is still up. Yes I am aware I should be taking it down. But as you can see from Stella's face, the New Year has us wondering, does it have to be over? Around the time I started talking about putting up the decorations Stella made it clear she wasn't quite ready for me to put up the Christmas cheer. And if I am being honest, I am not ready yet either. Something about seeing the tree all lit up with the ornaments glittering makes my heart happy. I love coming home and seeing the twinkle of lights as I drive up the street, a light dusting of snow on the ground. I love the snowmen and reindeer and Christmas colors. I love hot chocolate in front of a fire while cookies are baking in the oven. I love decorating and Christmas wreaths. So don't be surprised if you show up to my house in the middle of March and there's still a tree up. Stella and I just aren't ready to let go of the holiday spirit! Plus, Jordan said we could. :)
What gets you excited about life? What makes you wake up in the morning ready to start the day and keeps you fueled and motivated well into the evening? If you know what that something is then you are very blessed. Chase that dream with all you've got and never give up on what fuels your fire.
Maybe you don't know what your passion is. Maybe you are like me; you have lots of things you LIKE to do but nothing that really SETS YOUR SOUL ON FIRE. The best advice I can give you is to keep searching for that magic. Keep looking for the thing that gets you so pumped you cannot wait to tell your friends about it and work on it.
I have been trying to find my passion for awhile. I have lots of things I would consider hobbies that I enjoy doing, but nothing that really ignites a fire deep within me. However, all of that is starting to change. I think I have finally found IT. The thing that puts a smile on my face and doesn't even feel like work because I just enjoy it so much. The thing that has me so PUMPED that this shy girl is talking to other people about it.
So some back story... I dragged Jordan with me to go get a Zyto Scan a few months ago and since then my curiosity about oils is growing and growing. I have been using essential oils for about a year on and off in my diffuser and occasionally topically. But since getting my Zyto Scan I want to know more, and the more I learn the more excited I get! Seeing how many toxins we have in our home and taking the time to make some products myself (check out the essential oils section of the website.... more to come soon!!!) has given me an indescribable feeling. It's a mixture of joy and giddiness and fun and good vibes. I am loving making things myself and having DIY days with my friends and I WANT MORE! I think I have found my passion; and it's essential oils.
So if you aren't there yet and you are still searching; don't give up! Take new class and try new things. You never know when it might just sneak up on you!
Want to know more about oils? E-mail me at email@example.com
If you have never had a Friendsgiving, I HIGHLY recommend you give it a try. Family relationships are important, but so are the relationships with your friends. Sometimes with the hustle and bustle of life, our friends fall to the wayside. This November, or even December, get your friends together to celebrate your friendship, have some laughs, reminisce on your wild adventures, and of course enjoy some great food!
Here's how it works. Invite all your friends. Tell them to invite some of their friends. Plan your menu. The host is in charge of the main course (we had turkey, but you could do ham or make a roast). Everyone else supplies the drinks, appetizers, sides, and desserts. Depending on how large the group will be, consider having someone else bring an additional main course; maybe something vegetarian friendly. As a group we selected a few must haves for our menu and then opened it up to what people wanted to make/bring. We brought our famous chicken casserole (check out the recipes blog) while another friend made the most amazing wine slushies. Sharing recipes is a must. It would be fun if everyone had their recipe printed up to share, or if you are more tech savvy, a shared folder in Google.
So what are you waiting for? Call up your crew and get planning! You'll be happy you did.
We are Amber and Jordan Kirbey. We are excited to share our experiences and ideas with you!